A
reader recently sent in the following questions about the death of
Jesus as the Son of God and how it affected God the Father.
Specifically, they wanted to know if God knew what it was like to
experience the death of a child. Here is the question:
I am a believer, but I am troubled by an atheist’s
questions. I was talking to an atheist the other day, and he said that
God doesn’t know what it’s like to experience the death of a child
because he knew all along that Jesus would rise in three days, so he
only lost him for the weekend! He also questioned that if God is Jesus,
why did he beg to be saved from the cross when he was in the garden?
Also, shouldn’t Jesus already have known he would rise again in three
days? Why did he ask God, “Why have you forsaken me?” Wouldn’t he know
that he’s only going to be dead three days?
I am answering these questions over the course of four blog posts in the following order:
- How to Answer Questions of Atheists
- 2 Traditional Explanations for How God knows what it is Like to Lose a Son (both of which I reject)
- 2 Ways God Knows What it is like to Experience the Death of a Child
- Why did Jesus say, “My God, My God, Why have You forsaken Me?”
So in this post, I will look at two ways that God does indeed know
what it is like to experience the death of a child, and in fact, knows
better than we do what it is like.
God Knows What it is Like to Experience the Death of a Child
I believe that God
does know what it is like to experience
the death of a child. In fact, I believe that God knows better than
anyone else. We can see this in at least two ways.
1. When Jesus Became Sin, God’s Eternal Relationship with Jesus was Shattered
God did not experience the death of a child the same way that humans
do. When Jesus died on the cross, it is true that God did not experience
His death the same way that human parents experience the death of their
son or daughter. But this does not mean that there was no loss on the
part of God, that there was no pain, that there was no suffering.
Quite
to the contrary, it could be argued that God experienced greater loss,
greater pain, and greater suffering than do human parents.
2 Corinthians 5:21 says that on the cross,
Jesus became sin for us.
He took our sin upon Himself. While it is nearly impossible to
understand exactly how this happened or what occurred, we can know that
whatever it means, it would have caused excruciating anguish and torment
for both God the Father and God the Son. We have lived with sin our
entire lives. We have become accustomed to it. We cannot imagine an
existence without sin.
But God is holy, righteous, and good. He is love and light. What then
must it mean for Him to knew no sin to become sin for us? What must it
have been like for God to see the holiness of His one and only son get
exchanged (or covered, or extinguished, or whatever verb best fits with
your theology of the atonement) with the totality of all sin ever
committed by every human in the history of the world? We humans cannot
imagine the suffering and the torment that this must have caused.
Worse yet, the sin that Jesus bore caused a rift to open in His
relationship with God the Father. The sin caused a separation. This is
why Jesus cried out from the cross, “My God, My God, Why have you
forsaken me?” (which we will look at tomorrow). This is the cry of God
the Son experiencing for the first time in eternity a separation from
God the Father. The suffering and sacrifice was so great, that it
shattered the eternal relationship between God the Father and God the
Son. This also is something we humans cannot imagine. We are pained when
separated from our loved ones whom we have known for several years, or
several decades. But God the Father and God the Son have existed
eternally in relationship with one another. Sin caused them to be
separated.
And while both knew that Jesus would rise again, there was a pain in
their separation that can never be matched by the most painful loss
which any human being can experience.
Look at it this way. Though plants are “alive” (in some sense), they
do not experience pain or loss when one of their “baby” plants die. Up
the creation spectrum a little bit, we have animals. Many animals
parents (though not all) do experience pain or loss when one of their
children dies. But going up the creation spectrum to the top, it seems
that humans experience the greatest pain and suffering when we are
separated from our children by death.
But God is infinitely “higher” than humans in every way, and
therefore, must experience an infinitely greater loss at the pain,
suffering, and loss of His Son, even though He knew He would be reunited
with His son shortly.
The knowledge of the
resurrection did not dissipate the pain and suffering that God
experienced when Jesus bore the sin of the world into death.
The
knowledge of the resurrection did not dissipate the pain and suffering
that God experienced when Jesus bore the sin of the world into death.
Again, think about the situation as a parent. Let us say that you
knew your child was going to die, and that your child would rise again
from the dead in three days. But before your child died, they would have
to experience the most excruciating and painful torment ever
imaginable. Would their pain and death be any easier for you to handle,
even knowing that they would rise again in three days? No, I do not
think so.
How much more so for God? Though the situation was a bit different
when God lost His son than when parents lose their children, it can be
argued that God knows the pain of suffering and the torment of a lost
loved one in deeper ways and with greater agony than do human parents.
God does know the pain of losing a child. Since death is the antithesis
and complete opposite of everything that is “God” for Jesus to die would
be the greatest and more terrible experience of the death of a child,
especially when the child is the Son of God.
But there is another way that God has experienced the death of a child.
2. Every Person is One of God’s Children
We sometimes seem to forget that every single person is (in some
sense) one of God’s children. Even those who rebel against God and who
never return to Him are viewed by Him as His lost and wayward children.
He looks after each and every person on earth throughout history. He
looks earnestly down the road every day, hoping that his wayward
children will return to Him.
And when each and every person dies, whether young or old, God
suffers through their death. Death, remember, was not God’s plan or
desire for the world.
When any person dies, it wrenches the heart of God. Death torments God day and night.
When any person dies, it wrenches the heart of God. Death torments God day and night.
When we suffer over the loss of our loved ones, God suffers with us.
When we cry out in pain over the death of a child, God cries with us.
When we scream until we have no voice and sob until we have no tears,
God continues to scream with a voice that never cracks and sob with
eyes that never run dry.
When you suffer over the death of a child, a parent, a spouse, a
sibling, a friend, or any loved one, know that God suffers also. However
much you suffer over the loss of your loved ones, God suffers more. He
knows what it is like to experience the death of a child, because all
people are his sons and daughters. He “gave birth” to us. He brought us
forth. He cared for us. Tended us. Brought us up. Planned for our
future. Laughed and danced and sang with us.
And when death strikes, God is there, grieving and mourning over the death of yet another child.
God knows what it
is like to lose a child, not just because of Jesus, but because He
experiences the pain of death whenever any person dies.
I think that more than anything, when a person is going through
intense pain and suffering and they cry out to God in anger, despair, or
frustration, while they do not really want theological answers or
Scripture quotations, one thing they do want is to know that God is with
them in their pain and suffering, and that He is suffering right along
with them.
This idea that God suffers when we suffer is one way to encourage
people to see the love and care of God in our lives, even when we
experience the death of a child or face any other type of pain in life.